Matters of the Fucking Heart (Phew)
Women are high strung emotional creatures that talk too much and expect too much from their significant others. Correct? Men are fucking bastards that cannot for the love of chocolate (or insert something you love here) know what the hell they want, except for the fact that one woman just isn’t enough. Right?
WRONG!!!!!
I’m tired of hearing these sometimes true misconceptions. And I am aware that being female that makes me biased. But what the hell. I mean if you honestly think about all the things men say about women and vice versa. Its all bullshit. I mean all the stories we are told, are from other people. I mean yeah some people have the luxury to experience the same situations. But I mean really why blame the assholes that cheat on us or the pathetic losers that just date us so they are no longer lonely? You dated them. During a break up, you are either the dumpee, or the person that is doing the most damage. And of course you go through your blue period where you are completely heart broken and feel like your whole world is gone. And that you will never be able to love another human being for as long as you live. LIES. You do love again. And sometimes the same thing happens to you more than once.
Why is this happening? Why do you have such a hard time finding “The One” or at least someone that is not only mentally compatible with you but also emotional, and physically. And any other way you can be compatible with a person. I know I have no idea what I am talking about. I have really only had one relationship. And its not like I have been searching for “The One” all my life. But after hearing the same story from the same person about how she can’t seem to be happy in relationships? Is driving me fucking crazy. I mean I lover her. And I want her to be happy. But she complains and gripes about the same horrible guys over and over again.
NEWS FLASH
I really mean no offense when I say this but, have you ever thought that the reason you can’t be happy with your current boyfriend/girlfriend is because of you? I mean you choose who you date. You don’t really get to decide who you have feelings for. And you can’t change that person to become what you want. But you can change yourself. And you get to decide who is worth your time and who isn’t. I mean if you are tired of the bad boy act, then date a guy that isn’t one. If you don’t want a clingy girl then find one that isn’t desperately attached to you. I mean I know what you are thinking, “Easier said than done.” Right? People make things complicated. It doesn’t matter what your gender is. Men can cheat. So can women. Men can be emotional. (They just prefer not to be) Women are programed to be. (Not our fault mind you) I know I’m not really making sense, but I just really needed to vent my anger on this undying subject of matters of the fucking heart. If you could only hear the way this person describes her problems? You would be angry too. She sees being single as being forever alone. And your never really alone. Thats why we have friends and family. Unless you are really alone. Then I advise you to go and make some. Because you don’t have to be. Anyway, there is nothing wrong with being single. I mean yes relationships can be and are sometimes wonderful. But they aren’t magically like that. You have to work at it. I mean just like everything else in life. But you see the person I’m talking about confuses sexual attraction with love. And sees her urges as something she can’t control. Wrong. Its called free will and I’m not sure if you heard but humans are apparently owners of free will. Or so I’m told.
Today’s song is another one of Mika’s new songs. This one is called Your Sympathy.
Why are people so incapable of helping themselves? If you are parent, sister, brother, friend, foe; you have helped someone before in one way or another. Then why can’t you give yourself advice when you need it most? Or at least take the good advice given to you by others. This friend of mine is clouded and can no longer see the most important part about being in a relationship. I say these exact words to her. Over and over again. Hoping that someday they will get through to her. But they won’t unless she fucking shuts the hell up and stops crying over her problems. Instead of crying she could fucking be living her life and seeing the whole silver lining shit. Why be sad? That just makes you depressed. And then you begin hating yourself. I’m not a motivational speaker. And I know I could learn to tip toe around her feelings. But this is just how I see things. And I can’t really help that. I could keep my mouth shut, but why when I have opinions. She is too busy making things difficult and thats why she feels alone. Not because the last dumb ass couldn’t commit. We are all liars and cheaters in some way. We all hope to find a person we can love. And that will love us back. But they don’t just appear in front of us with a big sign saying,”I’m your One.” That would be sort of creepy if they did. I wish people would just stop looking for a person, or a reason to blame for their unhappiness. And just face whats in front of you.
Sorry I just wanted to vent. I tried venting out my problems to this person, since problems is all she likes to talk about. Correction…her problems is all she wants to talk about. Which I have just recently learned. She wants me to make her feel better and boost her ego and talk about how she deserves this and that. But when I need just a tiny bit of feedback she throws it back in my face for it to wait its turn. Because her problems are more severe. I hope she reads this. I doubt it, but I mean its about her so she should. I don’t want to sound immature. Because I’m sure this entry is. But come off it and listen to the advice you are given. You might learn something. But only if you listen. I’m so glad I have others that listen.
I had a point in there somewhere. But I lost track of it. I guess its just learn from your mistakes. And stop making the same ones. Otherwise you are just the fucker that cheats or the lonely gold digger. I should sleep now. Good night/Morning.
