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Quick Update: Adventures in Online Dating

Week 2! This has proven to be even more difficult than I thought it would be. Not because I can’t find anyone of interest. I’ve met a few guys who have, at least at this point, come across as interesting and nice. 3 to be exact.

However, I cannot truly connect with more than one guy at a time. I’ve only been able to put my full attention on one, yet once I do…they tend to just stop talking to me.

One minute, we are connecting, we have things in common, I’m enjoying the conversations we share and have come to the conclusion that I would like to get to know this person more. Perhaps even meet them in person. Then crickets. Not exactly sure how this is supposed to work.  I knew this going in, that it wouldn’t be all romantic and magical. Taking things slow is not a terrible thing. I just thought I met someone worth getting to know and then what ever happens after that…happens. Building a relationship takes time, however it also takes communication and actually meeting the person…in person. Things can’t really move forward without these things. Clearly, I wasn’t prepared, because once I take an interest in a guy then I’m not really looking at others. Yet, that’s not really the point of the app, is it? The point is, an easier way to meet people. For me anyway. Whether it turns romantic depends on the people. And even though I’m currently working through this, I guess, one sided crush I can’t just assume he’s feeling the same way. Remember, your matches are also being matched with other people. So my crush probably has a crush of his own. Sad. However, I haven’t had a crush in a long time and that part does feel nice. The over thinking and worrying part, not so much. But you have to take both the good and the bad. It does bum me out a bit though. I can’t get attached to someone who is technically still a stranger….right?

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We shall see what the following weeks shall bring. My crush might fizzle out and I might form new crushes…who knows? I’m also not sure how long I’ll keep this up either. But for now, I’ll just go at my normal pace and see what happens. Do you form crushes easily? Until next time…

Thanks for reading and commenting

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  1. Georgie Said:

    on October 1, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    I think one of the things I didn’t like about online dating and dating and looking for partners in general is the problem you’re having now – sometimes the people you are interested in are actually pursuing others and trying to see who they end up with. It’s a shame that that’s how it is for you at the moment, but I hope you make a connection with someone and you continue to have more dates with that person.

    I think I remember reading or watching a dating show where a woman just straight up asked if the person was seeing other people and interested in others, or if she was the only one he was seeing. I guess some transparency doesn’t hurt but I’m not sure how other people would take it. It might lead to them being open about their feelings about the people they are dating and maybe they might say a good thing or two about you – who knows.

    Good luck 🙂 I am really liking reading about your experiences because I know it’s not something many people like to share about online dating. But I hope something starts looking more positive soon. 😀

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    Kimmy Reply:

    @Georgie, It’s pretty difficult.
    I’m trying to change the way I see thing when it comes to this app. I’m going to try and just keep my eyes open and my hopes to the side. I think I’ve been putting pressure on it, even though I’ve told myself don’t put pressure on it.

    Thanks so much for checking in. 🙂

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  2. Joy Said:

    on October 16, 2016 at 10:17 am

    Online dating is so different now. I guess technically I met my husband online but we didn’t start dating until we met in person and were friends for about 9 months.

    My best friend was on dating sites for a while and she would talk to to 4 or more guys at a time just because she couldn’t keep anyone interested in conversing with her. I guess it’s just the way it goes now but she did find someone eventually.

    You’re pretty, intelligent and super creative so I don’t think you’ll have a problem at all finding someone worth your time =)

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    Kimmy Reply:

    @Joy, The online dating world is so strange. -.- I’m not sure if I was made for online dating.

    And thank you! You’re so sweet!
    I’m going to be positive and see what happens. 🙂

    Thanks for reading!

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