Dating?
So once again I’ve wondered into the dating world.
It always happens by accident and I don’t ever see it coming. It started with a caught glimpse. It sounds very conceited of me whenever I say this, but I really don’t mean it to. On Tuesday I went to my Fiction Forms class like normal. I sat at my desk. I said hello to my fellow classmates. It was a typical day. Soon enough class started, I was turning in a rough draft for a story I’m working on entitled, An Almost Beautiful Romance, I’m surprised I’m not bored with it yet. Anyway, so my professor started lecturing about Boldface and asked the few students who had taken part in it last year to talk about their experiences. After that he continues talking, as teachers often do, and then I look around the room at my peers. My eyes tend to wander but more than usual that day. Suddenly I lock eyes with someone, I wasn’t sure if he was gazing at me, so I do what I normally do, I look away. I mean for me 
that is just habit, I lock eyes with strangers all the time. The universal move is to look away at the same time. But I noticed he didn’t look away not until after a few seconds, his gaze had lingered. So naturally I stare back at him. No blink. He finally looks down at his paper or back at the teacher and I return my focus to my teacher. I catch my peer’s gaze a few more times when finally I figured I should probably smile or something. I decided on a smile/nod thing. I was trying to relay the message, “Great lecture huh?” But since he can’t read minds I don’t think he received that message. Well he stared in my direction a few more times throughout the remainder of class but I just pushed it out of my head. He was probably spacing out or something? So class ends, I say goodbye to my friend, and head out. As I’m walking down the hall I hear footsteps behind me. Which isn’t odd because I am in a hallway filled with students. :/ So I walk out of the English building and hold the door open for the person behind me. I continue walking when suddenly the footsteps are now next to me and the person they belong to asks me, “So how is your story going?” His name is…lets just call him Jay. Jay just so happens to be my gazing classmate. We had only spoken to each other two other times before and both were because we ended up in a group where we critiqued each others stories. I had noticed him in the beginning of the semester and during our second group time I even hinted at a group outing , aka lunch, with my two group members. I figured hanging out with him in an nonthreatening environment might be best. With writer’s you never know how they will react. They didn’t realize my subtle hints so I just dropped it. Turns out he’s actually interested in me. And has been getting up the courage to talk to me. The semester is almost over, so as you can see it has taken him some time to gather up that courage. But he finally did and it ended with me giving him my number and with a maybe date on Thursday. Which was last night. We went to Poison Girl (a bar) to listen to our teacher and two other writers read some of their work. The day started slow, and it was also pouring down rain. I direct you now to the picture of my rolled up pants and completely soaked d chucks. Those shoes are normally a lighter blue. :/ As my feet were submerged in water I just kept hoping that my
maybe date wouldn’t be canceled. Luckily it wasn’t. I also made it home in time to shower and get ready. So yay! He picked me up around 7 and we went straight to the bar to grab good seats. This place gets packed pretty quickly. I met a friend of his who had already known my name. Meaning he told him about me. I forget he isn’t a typical guy I’m used to. He’s a writer, which means he likes to talk. The night was great, we talked and laughed and enjoyed awesome readings. I also talked to several other classmates. And I have a dinner planned with several of them on Monday night. I’ve finally made friends who I can hang out with outside of class and they are all writers. I’m excited to hang out with them. One girl, who is in my Shakespeare class was there with her boyfriend at the bar. I can really see myself hanging out with them. They are a nerdy couple who I would love to call friends. I’ve been in Houston already for 2 years and I’m just now fitting in and coming out of my shell. It’s a great feeling and I don’t want it to end. I was happy with the outcome of my date and we plan on going out again. Not sure when but I will make it happen. Oh I guess I should mention this, at the bar they have a wall of pinball machines. I think its relatively new because I didn’t notice it the last time. But how freaking awesome is it? I mean it’s Spider-Man. I didn’t have any quarters on me so I couldn’t play. Oh and I finally used my Star Wars clutch at the bar. It worked out really well and I got so many compliments throughout the night. I love being surrounded by nerds. So yeah I had a great night.
Sorry for such a long post, I just wanted to explain the whole situation. I think I’m starting to like Jay, but we’ll see what happens. How do you handle asking out someone? Do you wait for them to make the first move or do you just dive right in and hope for the best?
Kayla Said:
on March 30, 2012 at 6:31 am
I don’t like all of the “rules” or little games that can sometimes come along with dating. Though I think it is important to never make yourself or your time too available. You have your own life, it takes work to share your life with someone else and share in their life with them in return. I believe that process takes time. If you are interested in someone, feel it out, if they seem to like spending time with you too than do it! Ask em’ out! I guess I’m a diver, I don’t like living nervous about things, especially things you can definitely control.
Good luck! The first initial weeks/months of dating someone are difficult because you are still learning so much about the other person!
xo Kayla
Kimmy Said:
on March 30, 2012 at 11:18 am
@Kayla, Fantastic advice. Especially the part about not being too available. You’re so right. Just because he has shown an interest in me, doesn’t mean I should answer to his every beck and call. I need to make sure I remember to keep things light.
I admire your ability to just dive. I always over think things. I’m not as bad as I used to be but I’m still very cautious.
Thanks for the sound advice. 😀
Kayla Said:
on March 30, 2012 at 2:53 pm
@Kimmy, I over think too! I think that’s the toughest battle is to not let that hold you back! Remember to always be sure of yourself, what you are comfortable with/not comfortable with or what you want and don’t want. More times than not you’re not exactly sure what you want, but you definitely know what you don’t want. You’re definitely not the only one who over thinks- I think that’s part of being a girl! (:
xo Kayla
Robin Said:
on March 31, 2012 at 5:00 pm
@Kayla, I agree – those “rules” are dumb. I think too many people waste time trying to follow them, instead of going along with their own true feelings.
Kat Said:
on March 30, 2012 at 3:24 pm
I’m like you kimmy we tend to over think things XD lol I’ve always been the one to make the move so would like if the guy made the first move plus I wouldn’t mind to meet someone new you know our town is so small -___- no one worth dating is here can’t wait to move to Houston >___<
Good luck with Jay kimmy ;D keep me updated!!!
kim Said:
on March 31, 2012 at 11:12 am
@Kat, I know I can’t wait for you to come to Houston. Hurry up and turn 21 so you can come to Poison Girl with me!!! And I’ve caught you up just like you requested. 😀
Kristen Said:
on March 30, 2012 at 10:50 pm
Ohhh I’m so happy for you! Congratulations on your date. And your potential new friends. And on you coming out of your shell and fitting in! So much good here! 🙂
kim Said:
on March 31, 2012 at 11:16 am
@Kristen, 😀 Thank you! I know I’m so excited. That night was really fun. I can’t wait to have more nights like it. >.<
Robin Said:
on March 31, 2012 at 4:59 pm
Congratulations. I hope everything goes well. 🙂
This probably sounds lame, but when I had a “crush” on my husband, I asked our co-worker to talk to him for me, since I was a new-ish employee and the co-worker had known him longer. I’m shy.
kim Said:
on March 31, 2012 at 8:47 pm
@Robin, Thank you!!! XD And it doesn’t sound lame at all. There is nothing wrong with being shy. Because you were brave enough to even ask your co-worker for help. Whenever I’m interested I let it go without even making an attempt. Unless I see an opportunity arise. But for the most part I’m shy. >.<
Yishi Said:
on April 13, 2012 at 5:25 pm
Gosh, am I behind with your life!
I wish I knew more people who enjoyed writing. As someone with a science background, my friends tend to be sciency people. And even during my time at uni, I haven’t really found anyone who likes to do creative writing.
Anyway, onto your questions. I tend to be really awkward about stuff like that, since the fear and awkwardness of rejection is something that still scares me too much, so I guess I’m not the best person to ask!
Yishi x
kim Said:
on April 14, 2012 at 2:23 am
@Yishi, I’m usually surrounded by writers. But there are actually a few science majors in my non-fiction class. I forget why they are taking it though. XD
And Yeah I’m pretty awkward as well. But you shouldn’t be worried about rejection. You’re adorable!