Inside Kimmy's Mind » Something in the Water:Past, Present and Future

Something in the Water:Past, Present and Future

Yesterday was like any other day…I got up, got dressed, caught my bus and went to school. Normal day.

Not exactly normal.

I’m used to not being noticed, but recently I have been…well the opposite of invisible. Now, I am still standing by my whole wanting to remain single for awhile. But for some reason I must have a sign above my head that reads, “She’s open for business! Ask her out!”

Alright, maybe that’s a bit over the top. But it is how I feel at the moment.

So earlier this week, a guy, who I will now refer to as bike boy, I had seen bike boy a couple days earlier. I was sitting at a bench when he rode by on his bike and stared at me and smiled. Fast forward to later that week. He came up to me when I was in the middle of discussing a class assignment with a classmate when all of a sudden. Bike boy stops and stands near us for a bit not saying anything. He finally speaks to us. My classmate leaves and then he and I chat for awhile. We discuss majors and school life. He is from Siberia and is a Computer Science major I believe. Anyway, after we finish I say he asks for my email.

We met up in between classes one day. Walked around, talking a lot and then when I had to get to my next class. He then proceeds to take out a bouquet of flowers.

FLOWERS! I have never received a bouquet of flowers before. So you could imagine how shocked I was when he handed them to me. He told me he found me very interesting, I stood there like an idiot. Not exactly sure how he could find me interesting after talking to me twice. I had no idea what to say. He then left, saying see you soon and I was left holding flowers and still having another class to go to. Very weird. There is a culture gap so I’m not exactly sure what he meant by giving me these flowers and I really don’t want to assume anything.

 But if he is doing this as a signal that he is interested in me then I must say, where was this when when I wouldn’t mind having a blonde green eyed guy with an accent hit on me? I would be lying if I said this wasn’t an ego boost. Because, well it is. I mean, women want a guy to just be upfront and not play the whole guessing game. But the minute I decide I want to be single things start happening. There is just no winning. After this happened I felt as though I was starring in a Kdrama, because things like this just don’t happen in real life unless it is scripted.  As far as I know, flowers could mean a completely different thing to him. Still think the whole situation is bizarre though.

 Is it possible for members of the opposite sex to remain just friends, am I naive for hoping there is? Or will feelings on either side always end up developing and end up ruining any chance of that happening?

Thanks for reading and commenting.


  1. Mija Said:

    on March 1, 2013 at 6:12 pm

    Open for business? LMAO omg kim!

  2. kim Said:

    on March 1, 2013 at 7:18 pm

    @Mija, XD What?

  3. Ginger Said:

    on March 3, 2013 at 7:38 pm

    @Mija, Yeah I laughed at that too lol!

  4. Robin Said:

    on March 1, 2013 at 6:44 pm

    I would just ask him what the flowers meant. You aren’t a couple and you said you want to be single for now, so it’s not like you have anything to lose, right? I think you have been through enough (no offense meant) that you don’t need anymore dating confusion right now. If it’s possible for you two to be friends (or something more one day, if you change your mind) then a simple direct question shouldn’t be a problem for him. That’s just the way I see it, I hope this didn’t sound harsh.

  5. kim Said:

    on March 1, 2013 at 7:17 pm

    @Robin, Offense not taken. XD
    I don’t really see him and I being close friends, probably more of an on campus acquaintance. I was talking more about the guy I mentioned the last time I posted about romance. lol He’s actually someone I want as a friend.

    And you’re right I don’t need the confusion.

  6. Ginger Said:

    on March 3, 2013 at 7:44 pm


    No I’m just kidding.
    But yeah, the universe is weird, isn’t it?
    I don’t know how possible it is to be friends with guys if both people are single. It would seem there’s always a desire for connection from one party or the other. I will say that all of my guy friends that I am comfortable hanging out with are all in relationships and that’s great…but for me, the paranoia of being asked out makes me avoid hanging out with single dudes in general if I’m not interested.
    Otherwise, time is the only other factor that’ll correct those feelings if both parties remain single…and it would probably take a bit of time, if I were to guess…enough time for the butterflies to pass, you know?

  7. kim Said:

    on March 8, 2013 at 1:06 am

    @Ginger, Very weird. Btw, it was nice having dinner and dessert with you. We have to do that again. XD
    And yeah, being friends with single guys is hard. But it turns out that bike dude actually meant the flowers as an offering of friendship. We had discussed flowers and how he doesn’t see them purely as a romantic symbol. So I have nothing to fear with bike dude. XD

  8. Ginger Said:

    on March 8, 2013 at 8:48 am

    @kim, I agree it definitely needs to happen more often! My car is dead right now but hopefully it will be better by Monday!
    And yay! You can haz guy friend!!

  9. kim Said:

    on March 9, 2013 at 12:59 am

    @Ginger, I hope your car is better soon. >.< Also, just noticed I can't access your blog for some reason. I used to be able to but now it says I've been denied. T-T Not sure why.

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