Recently…
I introduced Matt to my parent’s. I know, some might consider 5 months of dating too soon, but I wanted my parents to meet him. He’s all of the above and so much more. ❤
My dad is a very hyper person, especially when he is having a good time. If he likes a person, then he continues on with his hyper attitude and partners it with his mile-a-minute-talking. Something he and I have in common. Sadly, if he does not like a person then he remains quiet. Which is usually unheard of. He also met my 9 month old niece. She was so shy and it was so adorable. She clung to my shirt and just kept eyeing him. He would hold out his hand to her and she would reach for him then take her hand back. She let him hold her for a second, I guess she was just trying to figure him out.
Now, I was not worried about Matt meeting my family. He’s a great conversationalist, even though he feels as though he is awkward. I think, provided the people around him are actively including him, then he has no problem. Now he’ll be invited to family gatherings and weekend trips to my parent’s. He definitely made an impression. As for Matt’s parents, they live in Florida but will be visiting Texas next month. I’ll get a chance to meet them during their visit and I hope they like me, I have some concerns that I’d rather not type out let alone say out loud. -.- Just some run of the mill jealousy and nervousness.
Meeting the parents is a serious matter. But this is morphing into a serious relationship, and even though I have introduced two other boyfriends beforehand but I’m not going to let past relationships haunt my new one.
Does the idea of meeting the parents make you nervous, I’d love to hear your thoughts. That’s all for now.
Thanks for reading and commenting.
Melissa McDaniel Said:
on March 10, 2017 at 12:26 pm
I’m so happy for you. I literally started tearing up with I was reading this. I’m so so happy that you found someone who seems almost perfect for you. The fact that you wanted to introduce him to your family this soon shows me that he must be a great guy! Reading this gives me hope that I can find someone else, someone better for me, down the road 🙂
Kimmy Said:
on March 10, 2017 at 12:52 pm
@Melissa McDaniel, Awww <3 Thanks Melissa!
You'll definitely meet someone great. I'm sure of it. 😀
Gillan Said:
on March 11, 2017 at 3:51 am
Aww, I’m glad you’ve introduced your boyfriend to your family! It seems it went well! I’m so happy for you <3 I'm sure his parents will love you also!
I introduced mine when we were only three months into dating, which looking back at it now seems hurried lol good thing we're still together.
Kimmy Said:
on March 13, 2017 at 10:17 am
@Gillan, It did, thanks!
I hope his parents like me, I’ve been worrying about it lately.
I’m glad it went well for you and I’m glad you guys are still together. 🙂
Augustin Ra Said:
on March 11, 2017 at 6:50 am
I think I really don’t have an actual event where I introduced a boyfriend to my mom because I always tell her that I have a suitor and if I like the suitor, as much as possible, I’ll introduce him to my mom and that’s when I’ll know he’s interested in meeting her or not. If not, then, I don’t want to invest in a relationship with that guy. I introduced my boyfriend since 2014 when he was still courting me to my mom and well, it went great. My mom and the boyf do a lot of talking sometimes. For me, I always want to introduce a guy as a suitor first so my mom could permit me or not when the guy would invite me to a date and I don’t have anything to hide from mom. 🙂
Kimmy Said:
on March 12, 2017 at 9:41 am
@Augustin Ra, Yes, it does make Continuing the relationship easier when your parents approve. So I can see how introducing them as soon as possible makes sense.
I was in a relationship in the past where my parents did not approve so it made it stressful.
I’m so glad they like Matt.
Thanks for sharing your opinion.
Augustin Ra Said:
on March 12, 2017 at 10:02 am
@Kimmy, I know! It’s indeed stressful. I also had a relationship when I was in high school when my mom and grandma didn’t approve of it because of the rumors they’ve heard about the guy and even though, how long the relationship I had with him, I just have to end it.
Kimmy Said:
on March 13, 2017 at 11:08 am
@Augustin Ra, Right. At first I didn’t think it would matter. But if your family doesn’t like the person, then it makes it complicated which puts strain on your relationship. I had to end mine as well, it wasn’t a healthy relationship.
Which is why when I started dating again, I didn’t want to compromise when it came to being in a relationship.
Georgie Said:
on March 11, 2017 at 10:36 pm
I come from a culture/background where meeting the parents is kind of not a big deal, it’s viewed differently from the western culture I grew up in. In my culture, parents can go for years without ever meeting their child’s significant other, or, when they meet, it’s just assumed that they’ll get along.
When I met Nick’s parents I think it was a bit of a scary deal, I understood that it was something that happened when things got serious (for us it was honestly two months in) but otherwise I had the same worries and hoped they would like me. Likewise, I hoped my parents liked him, especially given the cultural difference. It was nice, though, and I like the formality.
I also didn’t want to be at all haunted by previous incidents of my parents meeting my partner… I was once with someone who didn’t even want to call me his girlfriend and even three years in, he never told his parents that I was his girlfriend, and just left them to guess. Not really the way you want to be treated, and not really the way you should treat someone. I think it’s a bold and brave move and shows your dedication if you are willing to introduce your partner to your parents. Not only is it respectful of your partner but it is respectful of your parents.
Kimmy Said:
on March 13, 2017 at 10:27 am
@Georgie, That’s interesting.
I know cultural differences can be difficult when they don’t work out. I’m glad in your case it worked out.
Wow. When we are in the bad relationship it sometimes takes us awhile to snap out of it. I’ve been there too. I can’t believe he didn’t want to call you his girlfriend though. -.- Again, I’m glad you are no longer in that relationship.
I hope it goes well for me too. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Elise Liddell Said:
on March 12, 2017 at 6:41 am
this reminds me of the first time i went to my boyfriend’s house and met his parents. it was so… weird and scary and awkward. i was afraid his mom would judge me for being an introvert because ever since i was a kid, my own mom always plants this idea of how people will reject me and all those bullshit thus increasing my anxiety when it comes to meeting new people. turns out, his parents had no problem with me being quiet lol
it’s the same thing when my boyfriend met my parents. he had met mine even before we went out because we started as friends but when he faced them AFTER we began dating, he was so scared too. well, I was scared my parents would judge and be bitter baby boomers to him, pfft. but he’s an extrovert and he carries it better than i do so yeah, maybe i should be the one worrying because i’m not a conversation initiator lol and i’m not sure what my parents think of my bf tbh. i mean he’s a good person and all, very polite and stuff but my parents can be judgmental *beep* sometimes so yeah. but then again, i don’t really care what they think, as long as i have a genuine person for a partner.
meeting the parents is DEFINITELY a big deal. my bf and i weren’t worried about past relationships haunting us though because….we had none, haha. so anyway, i hope things go smoothly on your side.
Kimmy Said:
on March 13, 2017 at 10:33 am
@Elise Liddell, I’m afraid Matt’s mom will judge me too. I just kept thinking what if they think I’m not a good match for him. Things like that. It’s stupid to think that way, because the way Matt is, I doubt his parents will think that way. But I’m just nervous.
>.< Exactly, as long as your partner is genuine then it shouldn't matter what others think. But I am glad that my parents like Matt, and I hope his parents like me. Thanks for sharing your side. I'm glad things for you went well, even if you're not sure what your parents think of him. I don't think they think poorly of him.
Nancy Said:
on March 12, 2017 at 2:32 pm
I’m glad to hear that Matt made a great impression on your parents. It’s even better that he’ll be with you guys during family events and such. Hope his parents will like you too! It is important for a significant to meet your parents – as long as they’re open for it. I do feel nervous because it’s people I might have to interact with for the rest of my life. Better to have a good relationship :).
Kimmy Said:
on March 13, 2017 at 11:05 am
@Nancy, Thank you!
I can’t wait to include him in more family things. They’ve already invited him to Easter. XD
Yes, I’m nervous because these are his parents, even though I know he would do what makes him happy, and his parents seem the type to feel happy as long as he is happy. But still, I want them to like me. 🙂
Eena Said:
on March 13, 2017 at 9:48 pm
I’m so glad things went well! I don’t think five months into a relationship is too soon; in fact, my parents didn’t meet Chris until seven months and I wish I had introduced them to each other sooner.
☼ cabin twenty-four
Kimmy Said:
on March 14, 2017 at 3:12 pm
@Eena, That’s good to hear. I’m glad your experience lead to something great.
I guess I was a bit worried. But it went great and I can’t wait for them to continue getting to know him.