Inside Kimmy's Mind

I introduced Matt to my parent’s. I know, some might consider 5 months of dating too soon, but I wanted my parents to meet him. He’s all of the above and so much more. ❤

My dad is a very hyper person, especially when he is having a good time.  If he likes a person, then he continues on with his hyper attitude and partners it with his mile-a-minute-talking. Something he and I have in common. Sadly, if he does not like a person then he remains quiet. Which is usually unheard of. He also met my 9 month old niece. She was so shy and it was so adorable. She clung to my shirt and just kept eyeing him. He would hold out his hand to her and she would reach for him then take her hand back. She let him hold her for a second, I guess she was just trying to figure him out.

Now, I was not worried about Matt meeting my family. He’s a great conversationalist, even though he feels as though he is awkward. I think, provided the people around him are actively including him, then he has no problem. Now he’ll be invited to family gatherings and weekend trips to my parent’s. He definitely made an impression. As for Matt’s parents, they live in Florida but will be visiting Texas next month. I’ll get a chance to meet them during their visit and I hope they like me, I have some concerns that I’d rather not type out let alone say out loud. -.- Just some run of the mill jealousy and nervousness.

Meeting the parents is a serious matter. But this is morphing into a serious relationship, and even though I have introduced two other boyfriends beforehand but I’m not going to let past relationships haunt my new one.

Does the idea of meeting the parents make you nervous, I’d love to hear your thoughts. That’s all for now.

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Valentine’s Day: a day deemed the most important day to show your significant other that you love them.

False.

This shouldn’t be the only day you show your loved ones that you love them. This also shouldn’t only be a day for couples, it’s a day for everyone to show their love. My mother surprised me with a card, she was like a ninja and hid it in my room the last time she came to visit me. I’ve been saying this a lot, but love comes in so many different forms so why shouldn’t this day, along with every other day, be a day you show love?

Yes, I am in a relationship, but I don’t usually make a huge deal in doing the typical couple-Valentiney-things. I spent a lovely evening with the boyfriend, we ate dinner, dessert- he made me a strawberry cake- and watched Avatar. I loved it. I love him. He makes every day special because loving someone isn’t something that can be expressed once in awhile. It’s not something that is only shown in order to make a pretty instagram photo. It’s something that isn’t always seen but you feel it. I feel loved every time Matt looks my way, when my siblings tease me about something, when my mother answers the phone when I call, or when my dad saves the day when there’s a storm brewing. I am indeed lucky. And I bet, if you took the time to see all that is around you, you’ll feel the love too.

So please, treat this day like any other day, don’t let the candies and flowers make you feel as though you don’t matter. Relationships are great, but loving yourself is just as great. I hope you spent this day with loved ones, and I hope you spoiled yourself because you deserve it.

That was my 2 cents on this Hallmark Holiday.

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The moments before I fall asleep I snuggle against your back, wrapping my arm around you and I can easily fall asleep with you beside me.

The moments before I’m fully awake, I can feel you kiss my cheek. I can feel you touch my hand.  My vision blurred, streaks of light peeking in through the blinds while purrs and high pitched meows beckon us to wake up.  I can feel myself wanting to say good morning yet I want to linger in your arms just a bit longer before I wake up. 

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As a Christmas gift, Matt gave me a weekend trip to Austin. I was so excited for this trip, 1. Because I was going with Matt <3 and 2. I haven’t had the opportunity to travel much so packing for a trip and going on said trip had me all excited.

I might have taken things a bit far when it came to packing for this trip, but in my mind, I didn’t want to forget something that I might need. I had plan on filming things so I could create a travel vlog, however, my camera remained in it’s case the entire trip. -.- I was sick for the majority of the trip, Matt had caught a cold the week before last so I knew I’d also catch whatever it was he had. Saturday was the worse, and I know what you’re thinking…“Kim! Why didn’t you just reschedule?!” I didn’t want to! I was looking forward to it, and I had already cleared it with work. Had I been seriously ill, then yes I would have rescheduled. But I was fine! I was feeling much better by Sunday, but I didn’t let the blah cold prevent me from having fun during the weekend. Matt was so attentive and just all around amazing. He even let me go to Modcloth to try on clothes, it was a fit store so you try on the clothes and then they order and ship it to your house. I wish it were an actual department store but it was still lovely to visit. I may not have any video to show but here is a collection of photos, which is just as good.

I wish I had taken more photos while on this trip but sometimes I just wanted to enjoy the moment.  It was a wonderful trip and we’re already wanting to figure out where we will go for our next trip. I’m also hoping not to be sick whenever we do go on another trip. To Matt: This trip was wonderful, I enjoyed every moment of it and can’t wait to travel with you to other places. ?

The travel spark has been ignited and I’m looking forward to taking more trips this year. Perhaps even board an airplane? 🙂 Do you over pack for trips or have you figured out a happy medium? And do you have any fun trips planned this year?

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This past weekend was wonderful.

For the three day weekend, I spent it over at Matt’s. Now, this isn’t the first time but I’m typically a homebody and enjoy being lazy, watching movies,  or knitting…you get it. But my weekends with him are always just so wonderful. So here’s a breakdown on our weekend:

• Friday: We went to a pre release for the new Magic cards at Asgard Games, ran into some friends there and I played one round. I’m not really that great at the game, but it’s fun.
• Saturday: We hung out with Matt’s friends for a bit, and enjoyed some yummy food and dessert. We also started watching the Netflix Original: A Series of Unfortunate Events. Loved the books, so I was looking forward to reading the books.
• Sunday: We woke up early, but didn’t really do anything until mid day. (Matt was also starting to get sick…which surprise surprise, I now have what he had/has)He was feeling up for getting out of the apartment so we decided to go to The Mad Potter to do some painting. He painted a mug and I painted a soup bowl. I forgot to take any before photos though. Very unlike me. Sadly, we have to wait until next week to pick up our master pieces because we won’t be here on Friday. I’m excited to see how they turn out. I might have put too much pressure on it, but luckily Matt was there to remind me that this was for fun. And it was a lot fun, when I suggested we go paint mugs, I didn’t think he would actually go with it.  Not because he wouldn’t want to, but because it was just so spur of the moment. And because of that we sort of ran out of time but I’m excited to see how they came out. Matt painted a mug, splitting it down the middle, one side with his white kitty Eve and the other side with his black kitty Marco. It’s pretty adorable. and I painted a mint bowl with white orchids. After that we went to Barnes and Noble where we picked up two new Magic decks and a copy of Stardust by  Neil Gaiman. We ended our night out with dinner at Sushi Choo Choo.
• Monday: Matt woke up feeling really bad, so I went and got him some medicine and cooked him some eggs. We spent the day watching movies and didn’t leave the apartment at all. We had our lunch and dinner delivered to us via Ubereats. Amazing! I’ve never used Uber before, but using it to bring food? So convenient and totally helps me maintain my hermit like behavior. The night ended with some reading and cuddles.

Such a great weekend, I hope my cold doesn’t last too long though. We have another wonderful weekend planned and I don’t want my boogers to ruin that. We have a trip planned, more on that next time. 🙂 How was your weekend?

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I enjoy the holiday season, the nice cool weather, when we have it, the yummy smelling candles and spending time with family.  But also because I really enjoy making/finding and wrapping gifts for my loved ones. I’d like to think I do a somewhat-good-job at the whole gift giving thing. Sometimes?

I try to anyway. However, there are times when I can’t seem to figure out exactly what to get and this is one of those times. Well, I have something but every time I look at it I get more and more doubtful. The gift I’m speaking about is for a special someone, yup- for he who is known as boyfriend. OK, that was a bit dramatic of me, but it’s still odd for me to even type out. His actual name is Matt and I adore him. He, of course, is great at the whole gift giving thing. He bought me the Cogsworth Funko Pop figurine! (Pictured above) It’s been one of those things I kept meaning to just order online but never got around to it. He just surprised me with it, a thank you for cat sitting his adorable kitties. And then he surprised me with a Pastry Pet that he got on a recent trip to Seattle. Meet Nilla the Mini Donut Cat, made by MarninSaylor. It’s so cute!!! These unexpected gifts make me smile, he makes me smile.  I hope to become as attuned with him and the things he likes as he is with me. I get excited whenever I learn something new about him so I don’t see being unsure about his gift as a bad thing…I just hope he likes it.

That’s all for now…more to gush about next time. I wish you a happy holiday, I’m looking forward to the new year and I hope you are too.

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Something new is evolving and I am beyond excited about it. Last weekend, I went on a day trip to Lockhart, Tx with Matt (<3) and his friends. I’m terribly awkward when in a group of strangers but it was a lot of fun and he and his friends are a wonderful group of people.

The reason for the trip was to try out BBQ at several different places because Lockhart apparently has the best BBQ. Now I love food, usually I stuff my face even after I’m full. I don’t recommend doing that. But I have a sensitive stomach and have learned how to take care of it…especially when traveling. I was prepared to hold back and only eat a bit from each place. We hit 3 different places…

1. Smitty’s Market
2. Black’s
3. Kreuz Market

Now, I skipped the third place and only had a bite at the second… I was off my game but was also worried I would destroy…ahem things. TMI. I was playing it safe. Even though I didn’t eat a lot, I still think #1 was extremely delicious. And I liked all of the antique stores that were in the area. We walked around a bit before heading to the third place. It was wonderful. And the area we were exploring reminded me a bit of Stars Hallow or the kind of feeling I imagine Stars Hallow would have.

I sort of wish I bought something from one of the stores we explored, but nothing called out to me. But I did manage to snap a few pretty photo souvenirs. One of the most magical coincidences is that Abby, a now new friend, has been on a quest to find an antique compact mirror. Which brought up the chance for me to mention my compact that my mother had given me while I was in high school. It’s a silver compact with an embossed design on it. And there in the store, snuggled under other compacts, just happened to be the same compact! This one was engraved with initials and in much better condition than mine. I really wish I knew the brand of compact and a bit more about it’s history. It was my grandmother’s beforehand, and I just loved the idea of owning something that was handed down. I hope it lasts long enough to continue being handed down. Abby bought it along with two other compacts, should I ever come across the same compact, I might end up buying it. But what are the odds of finding another one, who knows?

We walked around a cemetery before hitting the 3rd place but Matt and I skipped out on eating anything from there. Next time, we will have to start there so as to actually get a chance to try the food. It’s been wonderful getting to know him and I’m looking forward to continue getting to know him and spending time with him as often as I can. 🙂 That’s all for now, expect more gushing next time. And hopefully I’ll actually get up the courage and ask him to take an actual selfie with me. I was too nervous/embarrassed to ask.

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For me, online dating was nothing I thought I’d take seriously, I figured I would be on it for a few weeks at the most. There’s this anonymity that allows the users to just appear and disappear without really creating waves in a person’s life. It was a strange concept…still is for me.

(Side note: I realized since starting this blog that I’ve always updated at least once a month so it’s pretty bizarre that I didn’t update AT ALL in October.) Part of that reason has been, I’ve been pretty busy. Life! Work, family….dating. And I haven’t been on the app because I’ve been well…dating. Like I’ve mentioned before, I can’t make a connection with more than one person so I’ve devoted my time to see one person. Many opinions, like those of my friends, might say…”You’re doing it wrong.”

But this is what works for me and I’m pretty happy with how things are currently going. I could go into further detail into the unbelievably cute things this person does that has me smitten but I shall keep them to myself…for now. :3

I know relationships take time to build, and I’m not the type to sacrifice what I hope to have when in a relationship. I want the whole package and I’m not doing this to simply BE in a relationship. I want the right person. I’m already a very happy person on my own, so now I want a person who adds to that in a way that does not take away from my identity as my own person. Isn’t that what everyone hopes to find? Something that works.

That’s all for now, I’ll update again soon. Just know that I’m happy and I hope you are also happy.

Also…here’s a crepe from one of my fun filled dates. :9Thanks for reading. <3

Week 2! This has proven to be even more difficult than I thought it would be. Not because I can’t find anyone of interest. I’ve met a few guys who have, at least at this point, come across as interesting and nice. 3 to be exact.

However, I cannot truly connect with more than one guy at a time. I’ve only been able to put my full attention on one, yet once I do…they tend to just stop talking to me.

One minute, we are connecting, we have things in common, I’m enjoying the conversations we share and have come to the conclusion that I would like to get to know this person more. Perhaps even meet them in person. Then crickets. Not exactly sure how this is supposed to work.  I knew this going in, that it wouldn’t be all romantic and magical. Taking things slow is not a terrible thing. I just thought I met someone worth getting to know and then what ever happens after that…happens. Building a relationship takes time, however it also takes communication and actually meeting the person…in person. Things can’t really move forward without these things. Clearly, I wasn’t prepared, because once I take an interest in a guy then I’m not really looking at others. Yet, that’s not really the point of the app, is it? The point is, an easier way to meet people. For me anyway. Whether it turns romantic depends on the people. And even though I’m currently working through this, I guess, one sided crush I can’t just assume he’s feeling the same way. Remember, your matches are also being matched with other people. So my crush probably has a crush of his own. Sad. However, I haven’t had a crush in a long time and that part does feel nice. The over thinking and worrying part, not so much. But you have to take both the good and the bad. It does bum me out a bit though. I can’t get attached to someone who is technically still a stranger….right?

We shall see what the following weeks shall bring. My crush might fizzle out and I might form new crushes…who knows? I’m also not sure how long I’ll keep this up either. But for now, I’ll just go at my normal pace and see what happens. Do you form crushes easily? Until next time…

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For the past week, I’ve been on a dating app in hopes of meeting new people that might result in a potential dating pool. Even though I’ve only been on it for a week, I have learned a few things.

Online dating is probably not for me. In this day and age, online dating isn’t as looked down upon, however it still has this negative connotation to it. Because, for many, apps like these are for hooking up.  Please understand that I have nothing against it and if you met the love of your life from online dating, then I’m incredibly happy for you. That being said, let us begin with my tiny discoveries.

• A lot of the guys on this app fill out their profiles completely.  Not all, but many more than I thought would, actually take the time to fill out some info about themselves.
• People get bored fairly quickly. Even if you think you may be hitting it off, they might get bored and just stop talking to you. And it’s not like I’m taking it personally. They don’t know me and they don’t owe me anything. But it is frustrating. But if I don’t like where the conversation is going, I can stop talking to them as well. They just beat me to it.
• The Multitasking Generation! Everyone is talking to like 10+ people at a time. I can only concentrate on one or two people otherwise people just start to blur. I thinking meeting people in person helps a connection, if there is something there, actually form. Right now, I’m just some text on a screen to these people and vice versa.
• Attraction. For me,  attraction works in different ways. Of course, an initial physical attraction is necessary, and this isn’t shallow. You have to be attracted to the person you are potentially trying to date. But as I get to know a person, they either become more attractive to me or less; so even if it’s the physical attraction that matters in the beginning it changes to the attraction of a person as a whole. And I’ve dated enough to now know what I want and that is the whole package. I’m not going to settle and I’m not going to just wait for it to happen. I’m going to do my best putting myself out there.

Now let’s discuss some of the messages you might receive. You get the on flow of compliments…even if they don’t mean it. It’s apparently a favored ice breaker. Or then you might just have a more-to-the-point message, an invitation for a hookup. Another one is cheesy pickup lines, such as the one pictured above. I’ve gotten a few interested matches, some of them I was hoping would end up with a meet up, but then they must have found someone more interesting to them, which kudos to them for finding someone closer to what they want. Another possible message or match you might get are the hilarious ones. Ones that involve celebrities. That’s right! I found Jon Snow!I just think it’s funny that someone would create an account and then just use a celebrity’s picture, do they get messages with people thinking they are the actual person, or do they get messages from people that just think they are a normal person? I wonder. Either way, it made me laugh.

I’m still not sure if this is for me, I’ll keep you updated should I ever meet up with anyone. I plan on talking with a person for a week or two before agreeing to meet up with them and I will only meet up during the day in a place I’m comfortable with. I will just wait and see how things go. But I also want to play it safe. Have you ever tried any dating apps? Do you have any tips? Or maybe you met your current bf/gf on a dating app, I’d like to hear about it.

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